Be present, accountable, and aware

Hey, friend.

The story of David vs. Goliath is well-known, but later in his life, the king messed up big time. While not 100% accurate, if you’ve heard the second verse of Leonard Cohen’s song, Hallelujah (I’m partial to the Jeff Buckley rendition), you know what I’m talking about.

In the chapter following the song’s events, David’s trusted advisor, Nathan, confronts him about his affair with Uriah’s wife, Bathsheba, and his role in Uriah’s death. (2 Sam 12:1-13 if you’re interested).

Nathan called him out on his actions because David was oblivious to his continual lousy decision-making.

What did David do? Blow up defensively and off the messenger? Nope. Not David.

Instead, he completely acknowledged what he had done. He didn’t deny, deflect or dodge it. He owned it.

The other piece of the story that sticks out to me is how Nathan brought the issue to David in a way he could receive it.

Nathan knew how to communicate. He had empathy for David but didn’t balk at candor. It’s an important and difficult role. It takes courage.

I’m challenged by receiving and giving admonishment. Too often, I don’t receive it well and struggle to give it well.

At all times with any conflict, I need to be present, accountable, and aware.